by Lisa Cybaniak
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Finding home within yourself is something I think most people are striving for, whether they realise it or not. It’s that place within yourself where you feel safe, comfortable, loved and accepted for who you are.
Today we’re talking about how you can be your own soft place to fall, providing the love and comfort that you need, no matter where you are in the world or whom you’re with.
Maria Adriana Contreras is an empowerment speaker with a background in energy healing and embodiment, facilitating personal awareness for 25 years.
Meet Maria Adriana Contreras
Maria is driven to help others through her own personal journey of recovery and self-acceptance. Originally from Chile, she survived the civil war dictatorship of her homeland, including mass genocide and the disappearance and murder of her beloved father. At just 6 years old, she was moved to England, not speaking a word of English.
Quite literally, her world was turned upside down. But Maria found a way to thrive because of the experiences in her past, not despite them. She’s found home within herself, and she’s with us today to share her top tips for you to do the same.
So, let’s dive right in!
Finding Home by Letting Go of the Blame
Maria’s first tip to finding home within yourself is to ask yourself, what if what you’re blaming yourself for isn’t true?
Whatever we experience in life is filtered by our brain based on past experiences, our beliefs and values, among other things. It’s natural for our interpretation of things to be different from someone else’s interpretation of the same event.
So is it possible that how you’re interpreting your past experience isn’t exactly the way it unfolded? Especially whatever you’re blaming yourself for?
Maria reminds us that there is a lot of programming in society, within cultures, families and within ourselves. In the end, it doesn’t really matter why you’ve decided to blame yourself. However, being open to the possibility that it’s not true, can be a game-changer.
As Maria says, we are all beautiful, innocent children that have grown up. Connect with that innocence again and show yourself the grace you would show her.
Finding Home Within Yourself through Self-Care
Self-care is all the rage right now. It seems everyone is talking about it’s importance. That’s because it IS so important!
Finding home within yourself is about honouring yourself, as much as it is about acceptance. The two go hand in hand. Maria recommends you ask yourself, “If I really loved myself first, what would I need to do?”
Allow yourself to listen, see and feel the answer. This is self-care. Your answer may not be to get a pedicure. Depending on where you’re at in finding home within yourself, your version of self-care in this moment may be to understand the real you. Perhaps you need to stop being who everyone else says you should be, and discover who you actually are, and then fall in love with her.
Whatever the answer to your question, take the steps. The answer itself isn’t where this ends. You need to take the steps towards achieving the answer.
So, if you feel like doing lovely things for yourself, like a pedicure, do it. And if you feel like you need to discover who you are – your authentic self – then do that. Granted, this one may take several steps, especially if you’re disconnected from yourself, but you can still start.
What do you like? Which activities fill you with joy and love? What’s your go-to that helps soothe you when you’re stressed? Treat yourself like you’re meeting yourself on a blind date!
Finding Home through Your Inner Child
Whatever your inner child needed then, she still needs now. It doesn’t matter that you’ve grown up and understand things more than you ever did back then. The logic you can place on events in your past mean nothing to her.
She needed to be safe, comforted, loved, accepted and respected then as much as she does now. Maria and I are big proponents of inner child work, which is why this is Maria’s third tip: Grab a teddy bear.
When you’re holding your teddy bear, have a conversation with it. Allow the words to flow without judgement. Tell the teddy bear what you needed then. Sometimes, all you need is a hug. Remember, you’re still that beautiful, innocent child that has simply grown up.
More from this episode
Maria talks about so much more in this episode, such as the details of her when her father went missing and the impact that had on her life, how meditation was her turning point, and even why she exists – her purpose in life.
Press play on the episode above to get all the details!
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